My lover said a lot of things that, after four kids and the fog that goes with raising them through late nights, school events, soccer and everything that we as parents choose to do, I was really ready to hear. Husbands forget this. Twenty years of infrequent married sex had set me up for this … I had gone from having sex once every four months to having sex four times a week. Beyond saying yes to the idea, I started saying yes to the best part of an affair: the sex.