Being in this position has forced me to dwell on DIY positions while thinking wistfully about previous encounters. And offers the bottom partner the chance to feel sexy, desired and worthy of affection. It is a supportive position that allows the starfish to experiment with talking dirty and offering words or whispers of encouragement. There are few moves more powerful than relinquishing control to a partner you know and trust. Now, a common misconception about the bottom position is that it is always a passive position. This is far from true and, beyond the verbal control that a bottom partner can take, there are multiple maneuvers also toys!